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Men may shift their feelings into another arena, and there is nothing wrong with this.
We may express emotions only in places where they feel safe, and where the expression of feelings is considered acceptable. Just look at how we act at sports events: It's not uncommon to see men express great exuberance and affection, giving each other hugs and high-fives during a physical game. Football and hockey players are often thought of as some of the most "macho" men around but they appear quite comfortable expressing their feelings with each other during a game. Slapping each other playfully on the butt? Put these same men in another context, and you probably wouldn't see the same level of openness and comfort.
Men’s feelings may take everyone off guard.
Part of the problem for some men may be that they have silenced their feelings for so long that they haven't developed resources for handling them when they do arise. Such unplanned, unexpected emotion can often prove overwhelming. If I (a young american man) where to express my deepest and most secret emotions that I have held on to for so so long, people would be shocked. They would not know what to do, knocked off their own two feet. This is how all men feel. They do not want to express emotions because they know it will not be accepted because no men show it and no men has shown their emotions for so long that it has become a social norm.
sources: Unmasking masculinity -- helping boys become connected men | Ryan McKelley | TEDxUWLaCrosse
http://www.uncommon-knowledge.co.uk/psychology_articles/men-women-emotions.html
We may express emotions only in places where they feel safe, and where the expression of feelings is considered acceptable. Just look at how we act at sports events: It's not uncommon to see men express great exuberance and affection, giving each other hugs and high-fives during a physical game. Football and hockey players are often thought of as some of the most "macho" men around but they appear quite comfortable expressing their feelings with each other during a game. Slapping each other playfully on the butt? Put these same men in another context, and you probably wouldn't see the same level of openness and comfort.
Men’s feelings may take everyone off guard.
Part of the problem for some men may be that they have silenced their feelings for so long that they haven't developed resources for handling them when they do arise. Such unplanned, unexpected emotion can often prove overwhelming. If I (a young american man) where to express my deepest and most secret emotions that I have held on to for so so long, people would be shocked. They would not know what to do, knocked off their own two feet. This is how all men feel. They do not want to express emotions because they know it will not be accepted because no men show it and no men has shown their emotions for so long that it has become a social norm.
sources: Unmasking masculinity -- helping boys become connected men | Ryan McKelley | TEDxUWLaCrosse
http://www.uncommon-knowledge.co.uk/psychology_articles/men-women-emotions.html
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